Friendship is a major theme in How To Climb The Eiffel Tower. At the beginning of the novel, Lara Blaine has no friends. As the novel progresses she learns what it means to be and have friends. While I was drafting the book, I did extensive research on types of friendships and what makes a healthy friendship. One of the most useful articles I encountered was Therese Borchard’s discussion of Robert Wicks insightful book, Bounce: Living the Resilient Life. In the article, Ms. Borchard outlines the four types of friends you need in your life to cultivate resilience in your life.
The Prophet – this person calls you out on any misguided attempts, holds you accountable for your behavior, and knows when you are lying to yourself. The prophet can be a royal pain at times, but ultimately helps us to find freedom. Says Wicks, “Prophets point! They point to the fact that it doesn’t matter whether pleasure or pain is involved, the only thing that matters is that we seek to see and live ‘the truth’ because only it will set us free.”
The Cheerleader – Everyone needs a few cheerleaders in their life. They offer unconditional love, support, and acceptance. Wicks says we need the encouragement of the cheerleader as much as the criticism and feedback of the prophet. We need people who encourage us, see our gifts clearly, and are there for us through thick and thin.
The Harasser – this friend helps us to see the humor in life’s frustrations and calamities. They help us to mock ourselves and maintain a sense of perspective.
The Guide – this person listens deeply. They see the larger picture and points out the ways you may be holding yourself back.
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For more reading: Bounce: Living the Resilient Life